I used to be a passion basher.
+I scoffed passionate creatives.
+I smirked at artists I deemed pretentious.
+I sneered at anyone who was zealous.
Because I was uncomfortable with their level of commitment and passion.
Because I was jealous of their tenacity.
Because I didn’t understand them and, consequently, was afraid of them.
Basher to Fan
Something happened recently that turned my desire to criticize the creative leaders of our day into a desire to become their fans.
I stopped hating and started loving.
I was missing a lot because of my critical spirit. Rather than embrace, I pushed away. Instead of asking ‘why’ I said ‘no way.’ My desire to protect myself from these committed artists kept me from my own potential because…
[box options]When artists demean and criticize other artists, we are really criticizing and demeaning ourselves. (Tweet this)[/box]
The Opposite of Critical
Moving from critical to acceptance isn’t easy. It’s a process I’m still experiencing everyday.
I make it a regular practice to slow down when I feel threatened by other creative people, and the best way I’ve found to overcome this criticism is simple.
I ask myself ‘why.’
My little chat with myself goes like this…
Andrew: So you feel critical of this creative person.
Andrew: Yeah, I don’t know why, but I do.
Andrew: Why do you think that is?
Andrew: Hmmmm. Let me think.
Andrew: Ok, go ahead. Take your time.
Andrew: I think I feel threatened by them.
Andrew: Wow, that’s an interesting discovery, Andrew. Why do you think you feel threatened by them?
Andrew: Another good question, Andrew. I think I feel threated by them because I’m jealous of them.
Andrew: Jealousy. Wow, now you’re onto something. Tell me about that.
Andrew: I’m jealous that they’re more creative than me. That they have more to offer. That they are more free than I am.
Andrew: Wow. It’s good to admit that and get that out, isn’t it?
Andrew: Yes! Whew! Man, since I just admitted that, I like that artist more already!
Andrew: Yeah, that’s the way it’s supposed to work. Instead of jealously–which is really what criticism is–you start to love.
Andrew: Thanks Andrew…glad we had this little chat!
Andrew: We too.
Love replaces criticism.
Community replaces seclusion.
Trust replaces skepticism.
Question: Am I the only one who has dual-personality chats like this? (Tell me I’m not–for my own sanity) How do you move from a critical spirit to a loving one?