When Saying Yes to Others, Means Saying No to Yourself

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You’re creative, which means that you might have trouble saying yes and saying no at the right time. 

  • If you are a maker, you are asked to donate your work to silent auction after silent auction.
  • If you are creative you are the go to poster maker, photographer, party planner, home decorator and fixer of all things that require glue.
  • If you are an artist you are the gift maker, dance decorator and problem solver of all things creative

I’m not here to say that helping a friend out is a bad thing, or that you shouldn’t donate your work to a charity that you believe in, but most creative people find themselves saying yes so often to the small things that they don’t feed their own creative journey.

Then they lose their way.

Flip It

On the flip side creative people are great at saying no to themselves.

  • No, that painting isn’t any good.
  • No, you will never amount to anything.
  • No, you should not continue to create, it’s a waste of your time.
  • No, you should not even attempt to make a living from your creative work.

These two words, yes and no, they need to flip. If you are creative you need to say no to poster design, and yes to yourself. You need to learn to let your work be good enough, and to stop the negative dialogue within yourself.

When you start saying no to projects that are simple, but don’t feed your soul, and yes to your own creative muse, you will see your work and yourself blossom.

QUESTION: What do you need to say No to in your life in order to say Yes to doing what you were made to do?


Author: Andrew Zahn

I'm a son, husband, dad, business owner, actor and good sleeper/eater. On this blog, I pave a highway for creative growth by providing food, water, and shelter for those wishing to live, work, and play with creative zest.