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Happy Memorial Day! We’ve so much to be thankful for, don’t we?
Granted, some of you are reading this post outside of the American boarders yet we all have one things in common: honor.
The following video was created by my pastor’s son Brandon Hess. He excellently communicates honor with pictures, music, and story. I know you’ll enjoy it.
I masquerade as an extrovert.
But it’s just an act, a role played in pretend-land. Sooner or later, I’ll need to cocoon myself away for a bit to enjoy some silence.
I don’t think I’m alone, am I? Many creatives are introverts, preferring fewer words, fewer friends, and fewer parties.
Extroverts: we marvel at you. We marvel at your abilities to mingle at gatherings. We stand (preferably silently sequestered) amazed at your bombastic, never-ending ability to communicate with your host of friends while we struggle to maintain contact with the two or three friends in our close-knit circle. We’re jealous of your confidence in social situations.
+It’s when the news makes a big deal out of stuff that’s not really a big deal but they make it seem like a big deal. What’s the word for that?
(For more nontroversy visit John Ridley’s Top Nontroversies of 2011 article on NPR).
Communicating succinctly, whether in speech or in writing, is paramount. If our listeners/viewers must wade through superfluous wordiness (wordiness intended) to decode the intent of our words, we’ve lost our audience. To accomplish to-the-point-speech (could’ve used the word ‘succinct’ again, but that would be pedantic) we have to make up a few words which don’t exist.
The list that follows is by no means exhaustive. Share your own word shortcuts in the comments for us all to benefit…
OK, so here’s the big secret. . .
I do not enjoy talking.
If you’re with me, stand up and say . . . nothing! Yeah, you know who you are. You’re the person at a party who does a lot of listening. How do they know us? By ‘they’ I mean the people who see us as walking ears.
Problem #1: I majored in speech communications and vocal music.
Problem #2: Virtually everything I have done in the ‘make a buck’ compartment of my life has had something to do with speaking.
Although I don’t love talking, I love communicating. Big difference between mere chatter and actual communication.
I love seeing that moment of connection when mutual understanding, energy, and clarity takes preeminence over just the sound of rambling words. Communicators, like myself, may not love to talk, but we do love to convey ideas, plant seeds, and foster freedom that brings a change in someone else. We also love sharing mutually in a gentle tennis match of ideation, synergy, and positive consequence.
True communication. True connection.