Sometimes I’m a people-pleaser. I think many artists are bent in that general direction.
As artists, we often want applause, recognition or just the satisfaction of knowing we’ve made a difference. None of those things are innately wrong…until they become an obsession.
I know I can be overzealous at times.
I want to be wanted.
I like to be liked.
And I pretend it doesn’t matter to me if someone doesn’t like me–but it does matter.
Why? Because making people happy makes me happy–that’s why I love humor–that’s why I love entertaining, writing and any type of creating that changes something in someone.
Laugh it Up
So how do we fix a people-pleasing mentality?
I don’t know, but the only thing I can suggest is a bit of humor for tempering.
In that light, I present to you three miserable attempts at people pleasing, compliments of my dayjob…
1. Refuse to call people by their actual, real-life names.
There’s someone at work who’s name I got wrong when I first met her. She gave me a look as if to say “and you’re our PR Manager?”Look well deserved.
I called her the wrong name again this past week–and I’ve known her for about six months now. Impressive? Prolly not?
2. Ignore crucial information.
Leaving a voicemail the other day for a newspaper at work: “Yes, this is Andrew Zahn. I’d like to know to whom I should send press releases to or if you’d rather me submit them to your general information inbox. You can reach me at….er…my number is…(reaching for my own business card, forgetting my own phone number)…sorry I have so many numbers I just can’t seem to…”
It’s too painful to continue this story…but it didn’t get any better.
3. Hit “reply all” instead of just ‘reply’.
Not that I’ve ever accidentally done this and accidentally sent an email to the president of my company.
The content? Let’s just say that it would be the equivalent of asking the President of the United States where the United States is located.
Question: What about you? Are you a people-pleaser? Any good stories of your failed attempts?